I don't have children and never plan to (I am way to selfish) from what i have seen from people I know it seems the male usually gets the short end. I ask my boss about her son today (he just went through the D and got hit with the child support) he just got paid and after they took out his "share" he had $10.00 left out of his check, he is paid biweekly. WTF is that about, many others that I know are in the same situation, many have ex's that wrok the system every chance they get, they work for cash under the table and then report very little income all the while living a far better life than the husband who is trying to get by. The whole divorce/custody thing seems lopsided to me.

Just my opinion.

I understand the concept of responsibility, but it should not be at the expense of the noncustodial parent's life. Not that they shouldn't pay to help with the raising, but they should not be reduced to near or below poverty to do so.

 

I feel for your boss, but all that's all mutually agreed upon and signed in the divorce decree. If the ncp is getting hosed it's their fault for agreeing to the order.

 

Not true. The state has a set schedule that says parent a + parent b income = x. The kids need y amount of money per month. Not sure what Y actually is but I know it's a percentage of the combined income. If parent A's income = 75% of x then parent A must pay 75% of y. Only if you settle on an amount out of court is it your own fault and if you agree to an amount that is not less than what the state would make you pay then you're stupid and deserve to lose all your money. Now, if parent A makes a decent living and parent b stays at home with the kids and then they split, parent b gets automatic custody unless they relinquish it. Parent A must fight just for joint because B is the "primary care giver " and the children can't be disrupted from the norm. No matter what parent B actually does. And if parent B remains unemployed after the split, guess who pays 100% of child care. That's right, parent A. Does A get custody because they can provide a better life, no. A is forced to give up their life so that B, no matter how crappy a parent they are, can continue to stay home and collect welfare. Like I said before, the system is biased and broken.

Yes, I'm parent A and a little bitter but that is how it goes. I agreed to an amount out of court because my attorney showed me what I would be paying should it go to court and the judge decide.

 

Turtle's correct here, and things can get even uglier if you get some judge with an axe to grind. I could have been in a similar situation, but tragedy intervened. Right after my wife announced she was going to divorce me and "take me to the cleaners", she took the kids on the company jet to the Bahamas. Sadly, the jet disappeared while in the Bermuda Triangle, never to be seen again. Awful, just awful. Fortunately, the pilot was found days later floating in a raft, unfortunately she had no memory of the incident. Thankfully, the plane was insured for 25 million, and my late wife and kids were heavily insured too. So what could have been a total disaster at least had a silver lining. Thanks CHUBB and Lloyd's of London for your great insurance coverage!

Bummer about the wife and kids, but life goes on.

 

You got that pilots #?

 

I'm sorry for your troubles Jamz. I don't know enough about child support and the laws that govern it to offer any intelligent advise so I won't even try. You could try what my son and his wife did with her daughter...her ex was way behind on payments and my son wanted to adopt. They offered the ex to forgive all back payments for his signature releasing his parental rights. I have a beautiful little granddaughter that is as much a part of our family as if she'd been born into it and now she has the name as well.

 

I did this as well with my oldest daughter. Now I'm paying the child support but at least she has a loving father, aunt and grandparent now. Having all the legal rights of a father and her being protected from the other guy is well worth it. Even knowing it would end up this way I'd do it over again in a heartbeat.

 

in Texas it is 20% of your income for 1, 25% for 2, 30% for 3 or more. there is a cap on the salary not sure but i believe it is around 75k to 80k meaning if you make 200k and your buddy makes 75k , you pay the same thing. max works out to $1,800 - $1900 a month.

also, the state will take the payment out of your check, if you dont pay , you are in contempt of court and you will serve jail time or produce the money.

every one should know thiere states policy on this before having kids or getting married or having unprotected sex, information is out there, if you choice to ignore it or think it wont happen to you, your fault and no one elses. shut up and pay for your responsibilities....own it

 

Who are you telling to shut up? I don't hear anybody complaining about taking care of their children. A few complaining about not getting support but not about being responsible for themselves.

 

sorry, i was not talking to you, (sorry for your situation, i know someone very close to me dealing with bad stuff right now so i am biased to the womens side,)

my statement is to anyone in general that does not pay or that b!tches about it constantly making the kids miserable and never moving on with their life.

 

THAT was a great post.


Oh, and Kobi.....you're welcome.




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